格瑞的困扰

放在硬盘里那么久，都不知道是les的片子，看着别扭，相当别扭。

主要还是演的问题，和性向无关

有2段对白很棒
其一是Gray的同事Carrie退出那个"Weight Watchers"后对她说的~
人人心中都有自己的标准,何必被外界的眼光所束缚?

I hate fiber.
I like Mallomars.
And if Dereck isn't going to love me
for the tiny amount...
of cellulite I have
on the back of my thighs...
then fuck him- Screw that guy.
This is the package, okay?
It's exactly the same under the wrapping.
This is the package.
No exchanges, no returns.

我恨纤维，我喜欢巧克力曲奇
如果德里克不再爱我，就因为…
我大腿后面的那点脂肪
- 那就去他的，让那家伙见鬼去
就是这个包袱对吗？
里面裹的东西完全一样
就是这个包袱，不调换，不退货


I mean, why does
our society push us...
to be perpetually uncomfortable
with who we are?
It's so messed up.
You wanna know why?
Here. This is why.
"Boost your buttocks in fiive days."
"Luscious liposuction."
"The flawless face-lift."
That's why.
Enough is enough.
We need to stop letting
society and-and media...
and our religious leaders
delegate who we are.
You're amazing,
and I'm even more amazing...
and anybody who doesn't get it
can go screw themselves!

我是说，为什么社会要逼着我们…
永远都对自己不满意呢？
真是乱套了，想知道为什么吗？
这里，这就是原因：“五天形成翘臀”
“诱人的吸脂术”，“完美拉皮”
这就是原因，够了够了
我们要停止让社会，媒体…
和宗教领袖来定夺我们的身份
你很惊人，而我则要更惊人…
如果还有谁不明白的，滚一边去！



另外一段就是Gray在电梯里面对Sam说的她心中的恐惧，对les生活的未知感,让人唏嘘不已,自己都能深深体会到那种感觉~

I'm sick and tired of everyone saying
it's normal, it's typical, it's ordinary.
I don't feel any of those things.

Well, how do you feel?
- Lonely.
- Why?

Because I'm never gonna be able
to walk down the street...
holding hands with my partner...
without the rest of the world
giving us a look.
I may never have the wedding
that I once dreamed of...
and I may never have children...
and one day, when I die...
people will never give
as much respect to my grieving lover...
as if she were my husband.

That's what terrifiies me.
It's so much easier
to be someone else.

我讨厌死人人都说
这很正常，很典型，很普通
我一点也感觉不到这些

那你感觉到什么？
- 孤独
- 为什么？

因为我永远也不能…
和同伴手牵着手走上大街…
而不引来其他人的世俗眼光
我永远也走不进一度梦想的婚礼殿堂
我也许永远不会有孩子…
某天，当我死时…
人们不会多尊重我那悲恸欲绝的爱人…
就好象她是我丈夫

这正是让我恐惧的地方
伪装成另外一个人要轻松得多

挺轻松的电影，用一种不同的角度来看同性恋。当然在电影之中，女主角GRAY的心理变化是主线。她一直都是同性恋，从小就是，只有哥哥SAM看到了，爱她，所以等待她成长成熟的那天，走入同性恋的青春期，拥抱她，并且恭喜她能够终于了解自己。不过故事还是曲折的，让GRAY恍然大悟的不是别人，正式SAM的新娘CHALIER。
故事开始很羡慕可以有GRAY 和SAM那样的兄妹感情，那么无间，让人艳羡。可以说他们是象兄弟一样成长。
喜欢里面的音乐，刚开头的一段舞蹈让人觉得清新又惊喜，无疑的，GRAY和SAM如果不是兄妹他们的确是相配的一对，可是外人无法真正知道他们默契投合的真正原因，并非是血缘，而是一种同性才会有的默契。这样的默契直到CHALIER出现打破，原本是规则的一部分，可是却引起了另一场生活的革命。不知道当在L.V那晚，黑人女歌手和他们两个女孩子一起唱的是什么歌曲，释放了两个人心中所有的热情，特别是GRAY，她突然发现在另外一个人身上看到了她一直想要的激情，不过这个人是和她一样性别的，并且第二天要和她兄弟结婚。这点让她绝望和不能接受。
呵呵呵呵，喜欢里面这个女孩子的性格，在最后拥抱美好的蓝天和阳光，爱她的哥哥和嫂嫂，同以往一样的活力四射，不过这次她更加自我了，她走出了她要扮演另外一个人的阴影，做回了自己，要回了自己要的生活，不怕外来异样的眼光。
重要的是，GRAY知道她会找到一个让她幸福的人，无论是在杂乱的街头还是同性恋俱乐部，她看到了自己要的真正的人生方向。

前半段真的很闷，看的偶快睡着了-_-|||
不是偶挑剔，女主角长太不GAY了，演得也不像，虽然她长得非常讨人喜爱，但是直到看完片子偶都没觉得她是GAY，看来不是任何直女都可以演GAY的，除了演技以外，能让人YY的外表也真的很重要啊，我只能说：Heather同学，你真的很努力了，只是。。你真的一点也不GAY啊，强扭的瓜真的不甜。。
其次，电影后半段真的为前面的平淡来个乾坤大挪移，不仅中心思想点的恰到好处，乐观的结局让人觉得看喜剧还真是能够愉悦心情。非常喜欢GRAY和SAM在电梯里的那段对话，真实，感人。

Sam: What are you doing?
Gray: I want to die right now. I never want to see another human being as long as I live.
Sam: You're just coming out.
Gray: I am never coming out of this elevator.
Sam: This is probably the biggest revelation of your entire life. It's normal to be going nuts. It's normal.
Gray: I don't feel normal. I'm sick and tired of everyone saying it's normal, it's typical, it's ordinary. I don't feel any of those things.
Sam: Well how do you feel?
Gray: Lonely.
Sam: Why?
Gray: Because I'm never going to be able to walk down the street, holding hands with my partner without the rest of the world giving us a look. And me never have the wedding that I once dreamed of and I may never have children. And one day when I die people will never give as much respect to my grieving lover as if she were my husband.
Sam: Gray, it's not as if you made a choice.
Gray: That's what terrifies me. It's so much easier to be someone else.
Sam: Do you remember when we were kids,you would have been about six,and Dad came home to tell Mom
he was leaving her for Mrs. Rosemont.
Gray:Yeah.
Sam: Remember we stayed in the closet all night,just cuddled up like two little mice and listened to their whole fight. I was...so angry,I was... hurt..I was just...I was mad, and I wanted to go out there
and kick his ass...
and you remember what you said to me?
Gray: Humm..
Sam: You were just six...
      but you said it was gonna be okay...that Dad was not gonna live a lie...that he was gonna try
and be happy...and that everyone deserved to be happy.

-----what you feel now?
 -----Lonely.... 因为我永远也不能… 　　和爱人手牵着手走上大街…而不引来其他人的世俗眼光 　　我永远也走不进一度梦想的婚礼殿堂 　　我也许永远不会有孩子… 　　某天，当我死时…人们不会多尊重我那悲恸欲绝的爱人，哪怕她是我丈夫

第二次看，这两句对白还是深深的触动了我。Being gay is not a choice,but it makes your life totally different.


''你不能期望你第一个爱上的人就爱爱你''。正如现在的我，思前想后只是因为害怕，在意。在和女孩子相处这方面我都还没有进入青春期吧。这样想想也就释然了很多。

还是会后悔，当时的自己不够勇敢。害怕别人的看法，其实很多只是自己臆想出来束缚自己的。也许当一个人不在乎的时候，才是真正自由的时候。

毕竟是她的大嫂先吻了格瑞的，尽管她的嫂嫂查理那时候是喝醉了，但是毕竟是格瑞的嫂嫂的那个吻启发了格瑞并使格瑞爱上了她的嫂嫂。即使查理的那个吻是无意识的、不经意的，再即使退一万步讲，查理（查理是格瑞的嫂嫂，我看了电影是叫查理什么的，应该没错吧？）一点也不爱格瑞，电影中也应该要给格瑞一个表白的机会呀！
我靠，电影看完了，到最后格瑞一直都没有向查理表白她爱查理，查理就一直都不知道格瑞爱的是她自己。格瑞就这样一直单恋和暗恋直到电影结束呀！我认为编导应该给格瑞一个表白的机会，让格瑞去争取一下、追求真爱，既使被查理拒绝了，查理不爱格瑞，那样才能证明自己曾经为爱努力过，到最后既使输了，也才不会后悔。
可是电影看完了，格瑞对查理的爱一直都是一种单恋和暗恋的行为，结局最后虽然不是那么悲并且还很放得开，但这个结局是让我非常郁闷的结局。是那种压抑着我有话想说，但最终却一直没有说出来的郁闷结局。